How's life in Canada?
Only 19 days to Canadian Nat'l Pro-life Conference in Montreal
Montreal, October 28, 2005 (LifeSiteNews.com) – In just a little over two and one half weeks Canada’s first fully bilingual national pro-life conference since the 1980s will take place at the St. Joseph’s Oratory facility near downtown Montreal.
The conference, hosted by Campagne Quebec Vie and sponsored by Campaign Life Coalition and LifeCanada will feature 10 plenary sessions Thursday night, Friday and Saturday involving over 30 distinguished speakers.
More about it here
Canadian Parliament debates euthanasia bill on Oct. 31
Ottawa, October 31, 2005 (LifeSiteNews.com) - Bill C-407, the private-members bill proposing to legalize euthanasia and assisted suicide is scheduled for its first hour of debate in Parliament on Monday, October 31, 2005.
EPC was established in 1999 to prepare a well-informed, broadly based, network of groups and individuals who support measures that will create an effective social barrier to euthanasia and assisted suicide.
According to Alex Schadenberg, Executive director of the Euthanasia Prevention Coalition (EPC), "Bill C-407 is a direct threat to the lives of the people with disabilities, people with chronic physical and mental pain and other vulnerable Canadians. If Parliament supports this Bill in any form it is placing the lives of vulnerable Canadians at material risk."
Schadenberg points out that Bill C-407:
• Legalizes euthanasia and assisted suicide for people suffering chronic physical and mental pain. Chronic physical and mental pain can be treated.
• Does not require that a person at least try effective treatments for their chronic physical or mental pain. It states that a person qualifies for euthanasia even if they have refused to try effect treatments
• legalizes euthanasia and assisted suicide for people who "appear to be lucid" and doesn’t define what appear to be lucid means.
• allows anyone to euthanize or assist the suicide of a person, so long as they are "assisted by a medical practitioner"
Schadenberg adds, "This bill is a serious attack on vulnerable Canadians, including people with disabilities, the chronic sufferers of physical or mental pain, the frail elderly and the poor. These people need to be protected. Bill C-407 is a terrible piece of legislation that must be rejected by all members of parliament."
See Stop Bill C-407 website
Moreover, doctors, lawyers and a nurse speak up about palliative care and the consequences of legalized euthanasia.
posted by sunnyday at 9:56 PM
The sound of silence
October 25 was the 2nd Students' Day of Silent Solidarity (see a previous post about this), a day devoted by young people to remembering the millions of unborn babies who have been silenced since the Jan. 22, 1973 decision made at the US Supreme Court.
More of the early photos of the event are posted here
posted by sunnyday at 11:35 AM
Honoring the brave
Students given lessons in bravery
By Antoinette Konz/Montgomery Advertiser
They sat quietly Tuesday, listening carefully to the story about the Montgomery woman who refused to give up her seat on a bus nearly 50 years ago.
Many of the third-grade students who gathered in the library at Montgomery's Seth Johnson Elementary School to honor and remember Rosa Parks said they knew who she was, but were not aware of the huge role she played in U.S. history.
"She was a very brave woman," said Karim Muhammad, 9.
"She was tired of giving up her seat on the bus every day so one day she said no. She stood up for all of the black people in the United States of America that day. I think we should stand up and remember her today."
The students at Johnson Elementary were among thousands of Montgomery Public School children who paid tribute to Parks on Tuesday. Several teachers used Parks' death as a way to connect the past with the present and the present with the future.
"I think it was very important for the students to learn about the life of Rosa Parks today," said Jacquelyn Campbell, principal at Johnson Elementary. "With her death yesterday, it was a great opportunity to take past events and apply it to current day life. With her passing, they can see for themselves the significant contributions she has made."
While the third-grade students at Johnson Elementary were reading about Parks in the library, a group of the school's fifth-grade students were in the hallway working on the Civil Rights Hall of Fame and etching several silhouettes of Parks onto the wall.
LaDarius Norman etched the infamous mugshot taken of Parks after she was arrested. He drew the image next to two other photos of Parks -- one of her being fingerprinted, the other when she was a young girl.
"This is part of their social studies project," said Norma Bishop, a fifth-grade teacher. "They did the research and came up with the pictures and words that will appear on both sides of the hallway."
LaDarius, 10, said if he would have had the chance to meet Parks, he would have thanked her.
"She was always helping people out," he said. "I would have liked to say thank you to her for giving so many people advice and for standing up for our rights."
* Photo by Julie Bennett for the Montgomery Advertiser
Caption reads: Ashlan Shepherd, 6, was among many who paid respects Tuesday at the Rosa Parks Library and Museum at Troy University Montgomery. This statue of Rosa Parks is located in the museum's art gallery.
Rosa Parks photo gallery
More about Rosa Parks at Wikipedia
posted by sunnyday at 8:16 PM
What's going on inside?
Here's a sample of a pregnancy ticker you can get at Baby Gaga. Birthday tickers, forums, a newsletter and even stroller reviews are all in there...
posted by sunnyday at 9:12 PM
From the mouth of babes
Danyelle stepped out of the shower and said, "Smell my soft hair. I
used air conditioning." -- Sally Morris (grandmother of Denyelle) of
When Diane's 2-year-old grandson Oggie arrived, she picked him up for
a hug. "Mmm," Diane said, "you smell good. What smells so good?" Oggie
replied, "Screen saver." (He meant sunscreen!) -- Diane Schlemmer of
MiKenzie, 4, was very excited because her parents' new car has
"sunglasses" (tinted windows)!" -- Anne (grandmother of MiKenzie) of
Cherry Valley, Illinois
posted by sunnyday at 4:05 PM
El Milagro kindergarten in Peru
Every morning more than 400 children from deprived homes arrive at the kindergarten called “El Milagro” (“The Miracle”) in Chorrillos, a district of Lima, Peru. There they are given a meal, elementary education and primary health care, and above all they learn to share, and to understand the value of tidiness and lots of other virtues.
“The mothers and children who come to El Milagro have changed a lot because of the human and spiritual development they receive in this centre. They realise their own dignity as human beings and that helps them give a new meaning to their work,” said Nelly la Rosa.
Know more about this program
posted by sunnyday at 3:55 PM
Ooh baby baby it's a wired world
Do you still have your baby book? Pages bearing your first tiny handprint. First locks of hair. The day you uttered your first word. Maybe even a blow-by-blow account of how you wobbled into your first steps sans the stroller.
Here's a sample of a "baby diary" that you can fashion. Go by the month or year, it's up to you; you can even choose to document your newborn's first few weeks. Choose from kits and programs at Citrus Blossoms.
That's your baby book for the wired generation.
posted by sunnyday at 3:48 PM
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Strive to be happy.
posted by sunnyday at 9:32 AM
"Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children."
- Alex Haley (1921-1992), American author whose works of historical fiction and reportage depicted the struggles of African Americans. Became famous with the publication of the novel Roots. Pulitzer Prize winner, 1977.
posted by sunnyday at 4:21 PM
Talk to the hand
It's hardly surprising that a preschooler who has been spending his whole life (all 4 or 5 long years of it) around the family dog would assume that canines and humans are on the exact same level as far as the hierarchy of creatures is concerned.
Keeping a family dog does have benefits in that it provides occasions for play in the home as well as opportunities to teach kids about responsibility. Also, having a pet around is a good way to demonstrate to a child what he is and what he is not ("we drink our milk from the glass, we don't lap it up from a bowl like Pepper does"). Another thing you can tell kids when they're behaving more like four-legged creatures is that for humans, there is such a thing as manners. Dogs can be taught tricks; persons learn manners and what these are for.
You can learn a thing or two, if you please, by checking out the following -- from the book Talk to the Hand by Lynne Truss :
Manners are about showing consideration, and using empathy. But they are also about being connected to the common good; they are about being better. Every time a person says to himself, “What would the world be like if everyone did this?” or “I’m not going to calculate the cost to me on this occasion. I’m just going to do the right thing”, or “Someone seems to need this seat more than I do ”, the world becomes a better place. It is ennobled. The crying shame about modern rudeness is that it’s such a terrible missed opportunity for a different kind of manners — manners based, for the first time, not on class and snobbery, but on a kind of voluntary charity that dignifies both the giver and the receiver by being a system of mutual, civil respect.
And what's more...
Being friendly and familiar with strangers is not the same as being polite (as we have seen), but if it helps us to overcome our normal reticence, all right, be friendly. Yes, we live in an aggressive “Talk to the hand” world. Yes, we are systematically alienated and have no sense of community. Yes, we swear a lot more than we used to, and we prefer to be inside our own individual Bart Simpson bubbles. But just because these are the conditions that promote rudeness does not mean that we can’t choose to improve our happiness by deciding to be polite to one another.
You may access the article from The Times Online
posted by sunnyday at 3:45 PM
The house of 1,000 mirrors
A Japanese folktale...
Long ago in a small far away village, there was a place known as the House of 1,000 Mirrors. A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high, and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1,000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1,000 great smiles just as warm and friendly.
As he left the House, he thought to himself, “This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often.”
In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door. When he saw the 1,000 unfriendly-looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1,000 little dogs growling back at him.
As he left, he thought to himself, “That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again.”
All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflection do you see in the faces of the people you meet?
posted by sunnyday at 3:19 PM
Find out what it's about in this news article and get more details at SilentDay.org
What happened on Jan. 22, 1973?
posted by sunnyday at 8:55 PM
Strength of character
- Leonardo Da Vinci (1452-1519), Italian draftsman, painter, sculptor, architect and engineer whose genius epitomized the Renaissance ideal
posted by sunnyday at 11:23 PM
When one tsunami survivor helps the others
"Of course, my personal loss will take a lifetime to recover from," Ikehashi said after returning to Japan in September. "But this visit made me think I should not be grieving because (in Sri Lanka) I saw that people are struggling but trying their best to rebuild their lives."
That's Mineko Ikehashi (extreme left in the photo), a Japanese woman who lost her husband in the Dec. 26, 2004 tsunami when they were snorkeling on the waters off the coast of Sri Lanka. Despite the loss and her continued grieving, she has teamed up with some private groups and individuals and gone back to Sri Lanka to carry out programs that are helping the locals -- specifically the thousands of widowed women -- get back on their feet via skills-training.
Full story in The Japan Times
posted by sunnyday at 10:00 PM
Go, Johnny, go! Go!
His parents were waiting on the shore; his brothers Chase, Harrison and Colin held up hand-drawn signs of encouragement as the 9-year-old boy sliced the waters from Alcatraz to Aquatic Park in San Francisco. And for more than an hour, the 4th grader's friends and their parents waited on shore for him to arrive.
By now you must have heard of Johnny Wilson and his 1.4-mile swim to raise money for the victims of Katrina. He ended up raising $30,000 but he definitely couldn't have done it without the all-out support of family and friends. Mom Leslie was first to greet him with a hug as he reached the shore, and his dad whisked him off to the shower when the boy said he was tired after the swim. According to the news report, even 9-year-old Jordan -- Johnny's friend since preschool -- was there to cheer him on.
Read the whole story here
* Photo from Associated Press
posted by sunnyday at 9:30 PM
Jodi's family recently vacationed in the Dominican Republic. It was
quite an experience for Zack, 8, and Brooklyn, 6, and they especially liked
helping to tip the maid, bartenders, tour guides, bus drivers, etc. On the
way back home, once the plane had landed, Zack loudly asked his Dad, "Do we
have to tip the pilot now, too?!" -- Jodi (mother of Zack and Brooklyn) of
Quinn, 2, saw a picture of the Statue of Liberty. She pointed to the
picture and said, "Look, Mommy -- she has to hold her ice cream up so Tyson
(the family dog) doesn't get it!" -- Angela Cox (mother of Quinn) of Lee's
Elizabeth was babysitting for a family with five children. While
getting dinner ready one night she asked Andrew, 4, what kind of vegetable
he would like with dinner -- green beans or brussel sprouts. "I want the
muscle sprouts!" he said. "Muscle sprouts make you strong!" -- Elizabeth
Ely of Trumbull, Connecticut
Mark, 2, had just finished another art masterpiece. "Let's give it to
Daddy," his mother suggested. "How about we write 'To Daddy, Love Mark' at
the top?" Mark shook his head and corrected her. "No, Mommy," he said
firmly. "One Daddy loves Mark." -- Julie Kelsey (mother of Mark) of
* From Kidwarmers
posted by sunnyday at 8:46 PM
In the 1970s, the world saw a technological breakthrough that enabled doctors, expectant mothers and everybody else involved in the pregnancy to catch a glimpse of the world inside the womb. Real-time ultrasound was a first back then, and not only did it afford parents a view of their pre-born baby; it also changed the way doctors and other medical professionals regarded pregnancy. One example is Dr. Bernard Nathanson, an obstetrician who used to run the world's biggest abortion clinic and who has since come to understand the value of every person's life -- born and unborn.
“In 1976, we saw the development of real-time ultrasound, which let us see a fetus reacting to light and sound, heat and cold—we could see the baby sleeping, sucking its thumb—and here I realized that a child deserves protection from violence like anybody in society,” he said. (The very first post on this blog is a magazine article about Dr. Nathanson)
The 2-D ultrasound is a far cry from the 4-D imaging technology of today. The clarity of the 4-D sonogram image (such as the one you see here) resembles a high-quality photograph. Through more realistic images, even the baby's facial expressions are clear to the untrained eye. The baby can be seen smiling, sucking its thumb and expressing emotions like surprise or fear. The parents can even watch him move, kick, stretch and yawn!
You can learn more and view more images at Women's Health Professionals
Also check out First Look Sonogram and March of Dimes
posted by sunnyday at 6:57 PM
Digital-age family albums
"Digi scrappers" and "computer scrapbooking" are terms I learned only recently via link-hopping. Shabby Princess is a visual treat with loads of info and other resources on digi scrapping (kits, paper arts, software etc.), which led me to other sites, among them Citrus Blossoms. This site contains sample designs, one of which is the one you see here.
Technology is your friend this time, helping you "immortalize" days you'd like to remember and display with some creativity -- a wedding anniversary date, the arrival of a baby, days-out with your children, etc.
posted by sunnyday at 7:28 PM
Keep your kids (and yourself) real amid tech
Great article in the Wall Street Journal about how technology helps kids disconnect from their parents. If your child has a TV, computer, iPod, cellphone and stereo in their room, then it's no wonder they aren't talking to you.
I still find it hard to believe that nearly half of all 4-6 year-olds have a TV in their room. That's just so sad. The only media my kids are allowed in their rooms are books and music. The computer and TV are in a central area in the family room. We share those things, watching movies and TV shows together, and figuring out all the clues on the I Spy software. Sometime soon I'll be hooking their computer up to the Internet and installing a kid-friendly filter.
You can read the rest here
posted by sunnyday at 12:51 PM
A little girl needs Daddy
For many, many things:
Like holding her high off the ground
Where the sunlight sings!
Like being the deep music
That tells her all is right
When she awakens frantic with
The terrors of the night.
Like being the great mountain
That rises in her heart
And shows her how she might get home
When all else falls apart.
Like giving her the love
That is her sea and air,
So diving deep or soaring high
She'll always find him there.
- Oliver Matla
posted by sunnyday at 7:10 PM
What's it like for the pre-born baby during the 3rd month?
At 9 to 10 weeks, he squints, swallows, moves his tongue, and if you stroke his palm, will make a tight fist.
By 9 weeks he will "bend his fingers round an object in the palm of his hand." Valman & Pearson, "What the Fetus Feels," British Med. Jour., Jan. 26, 1980"By 11 to 12 weeks (3 months), he is breathing fluid steadily and continues so until birth. At birth, he will breathe air. He does not drown by breathing fluid with-in his mother, because he obtains his oxygen from his umbilical cord. This breathing develops the organs of respiration." "Life Before Birth," Life Magazine, Apr. 30, 1965, p. 13
When does the baby's heart begin to beat? Does he develop fingernails early? What about eyelashes? Can he cry inside? Does he hear conversations 12 feet away from his mom? You can learn the answers here
* Photo shows the feet of a 10-week old pre-born baby
posted by sunnyday at 5:39 PM
The things that kids say...
Grepke (father of Jonah) of Kendallville, Indiana
Sylvia, 5, was talking with her father about the Mississippi River. Sylvia asked, "Is there
a Mister-sippi River?" -- Jodi Villarreal (mother of Sylvia) of St. Paul, Minnesota
Christopher, 4, had been having a tough time behaving. At bedtime, he asked for a
candy bar. His mother said, "You may have one bite of a candy bar. If you behave
better tomorrow, you can eat more of the candy bar." She handed him the candy
bar. Christopher put his hands together and prayed, "God, make my mouth big
because I only get one bite tonight!" -- Lisa (mother of Christopher) of Syracuse,
Rose Ann tells about a friend of hers who was driving to a wedding reception
with her son, daughter-in-law and her two small grandchildren. They were in the
car after the wedding, on the way to the reception, when the youngest said,
"Daddy, are we on the way to the conception!" -- Rose Ann of South Lyon, Michigan
posted by sunnyday at 5:58 PM
Someone who understands
A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell. He painted a sign advertising the pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls.
He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.
“Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.”
“Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “these puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.”
The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer.
“I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?”
“Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle, “Here, Dolly!” he called. Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur.
The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse. Slowly another little ball appeared; this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up…
“I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt.
The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said, “Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.”
With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe.Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.”
* Photo from BeaumontHospitals.com
posted by sunnyday at 5:53 PM
The benefits of bonding with grandparents
If you've seen grandparents spending time with their grandchildren -- or if you've experienced the same thing yourself -- you know how beneficial this time can be to both young and old. The bonding can take on the form of anything from goofy playtime to dough-kneading together in the kitchen, war-time storytelling to outdoor exploration. It can be loads of fun; it can be sessions of sharing pockets of wisdom as well.
"Children who establish a close bond with their grandparents learn about their cultural heritage and family history, which can give them a stronger sense of belonging," states KidsHealth. "In addition, the unconditional love provided by grandparents allows children to develop trust and to feel safe with people other than their parents."
If your family's circumstances make staying in touch with the grandparents a little challenging, KidsHealth offers some tips.
posted by sunnyday at 5:32 PM
Recognizing Alzheimer's in your loved one
Q:What are some of the signs of Alzheimer's? My mother forgets everything, and is acting really odd when I visit her. I have also noticed that her house is smelling pretty nasty.
Here is a portion of Dutchy's reply:
Top 10 Signs that your loved one may have Alzheimer's Disease.
1. Memory loss. One of the most common early signs of dementia is forgetting recently learned information. While it’s normal to forget appointments, names or telephone numbers, those with dementia will forget such things more often and not remember them later.
2. Difficulty performing familiar tasks. People with dementia often find it hard to complete everyday tasks that are so familiar we usually do not think about how to do them. A person with Alzheimer’s may not know the steps for preparing a meal, using a household appliance or participating in a lifelong hobby.
3. Problems with language. Everyone has trouble finding the right word sometimes, but a person with Alzheimer’s often forgets simple words or substitutes unusual words, making his or her speech or writing hard to understand. If a person with Alzheimer’s is unable to find his or her toothbrush, for example, the individual may ask for “that thing for my mouth.”
You can read the rest here.
posted by sunnyday at 5:20 PM
Definition of love
BEST DEFINITION OF LOVE I HAVE EVER HEARD ...
It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.
On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound. While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.
I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."
I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life." True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there are some that come along that have an important message, and this is one of those kind. Just had to share it with you all.
Peace is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank. The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. (Amen to that!)
Please share this with someone you care about!
posted by sunnyday at 5:14 PM
Boys becoming men
"It is in every woman's best interest to live in a world with well-formed men, who understand duty, honor, and justice," stated the blogger at the end of an entry at Feminine Genius. The entry -- titled "Authentic masculinity" -- caught my eye...
One could reach out to young men by throwing them basketballs, or by titillating them with girly images, or even by miring them in an easy love of technology or speed. But this article by Katherine Kersten profiles an excellent young teacher who captivates young men with good literature:
My son had many fine teachers at his high school,
"He taught us about manhood. All the guys would tell you so."
You can read the rest at Feminine Genius.* Illustration: The Muscleman (1939) by Norman Rockwell
posted by sunnyday at 11:40 PM
Have you ever thought of chivalry as a mutual art?
Or do you even still think about chivalry at all?
Here's something that link-hopping again led me to -- a light and insightful piece by Darryl James:
Chivalry: 1. Gallantry, courtesy and honor. 2. The noble qualities a knight was supposed to have, such as courage and a readiness to help the weak. 3. The demonstration of any of these qualities.
We often hear that chivalry is dying, or that the art is dead, but many of us have no idea why.
That's how the essay starts. Then check this out, a few paragraphs later:
None of us can be honest and discuss the death of chivalry without also discussing its diminishing at the hands of both men and women. Currently, women discuss how men are no longer chivalrous, while men discuss how women have been rejecting chivalry. Modern chivalry fit fairly well during a time before the current women's rights movement, when women began to reject traditional roles and behavior, including the roles and behavior required for garnering chivalrous behavior.
For example, feminism taught women that displays of chivalry were, in many ways demeaning and condescending. The new idea was that since men did not hold doors for each other, why would they do so for any other equal? The image of the chivalrous man protecting the weaker "damsel in distress" did not fit well with the evolving image of the woman as equal, strong and independent.
Frankly, I find the ideas in this piece thought-provoking and somewhat a breath of fresh air since the topic of chivalry, after all, hasn't found its way in mainstream print in recent years except for nonchalant declarations like "chivalry is dead." Also, reading a man's perspective on the matter makes for informative material.
I assert that chivalry was attacked because it was misinterpreted. Instead of viewing it as a mutual art, yesterday's feminists saw the deference to females as negative. The perception was that old-fashioned chivalry was showered on women who were weaker than men, which had to be rejected by women who were seeking equality. But chivalry was also about courtesy and respect, both given and received.
Men should still pursue courtesy and respect for womanhood. We need to teach young men how to be gentlemen, so that our real traditions can be passed on. Women who wish to receive chivalry today, must do two things: Stand ready to return the respect and courtesy, and communicate those desires properly.
The article includes a bit of historical information -- social norms among Africans and African-Americans (the author is African-American) -- so keep this in mind if you decide to check it out.
posted by sunnyday at 11:26 PM