More for your mouse
Whether or not you're a daddy, some of the links will prove to be mouse click-worthy, too: there's Father matters (Fathers mentoring Fathers), and A family runs through it and Rebel Dad, both interesting and rather informative blogs of SAHDs ("stay-at-home-dads") -- which is just one of the things I learned by reading their light-hearted prose.
When you find time, I hope you'll also check out the others on the list.
posted by sunnyday at 8:00 AM
Other cute things kids say...
Connie's grandson Andrew came to stay a couple days. When he
arrived, he announced that he loved coming to stay at her house.
"Why do you love coming to my house?" Connie asked. He looked
around and said, "Because I love your Spiderman webs!"
-- Connie Harris of
* * *
Emma, 4, while watching Discovery Channel, asked where
was. Her mother carefully explained that
was a country like Taiwan ,
and Thailand and was near Singapore . Emma took China
the explanation, then looked at her mother and asked, "So where
-- Fiona (mother of Emma) of
* * *
Olivia, 3, went with her mother to the vegetable garden to see
how things were growing.While her mother was checking on the
green beans, Olivia decided to check out the zucchini. All of a
sudden Olivia screamed, "Oh, Mommy!The bikinis are HUGE!"
-- Harriet Moyer (great-grandmother of Olivia) of
* * *
One of Shea's 3-year-olds inspected a Nativity set and explained,
"There's Mary and Joseph... and Baby Jesus in his car seat!"
-- Jean Short of
* * *
Annie had taken her two children, Kerry and Paul, on an
educational visit to the museum. After they had walked around
the Egyptian mummy section, Paul asked, "Did they wrap the
-- Annie O of the
posted by sunnyday at 11:13 PM
'Labor relations' at home
Dr. Ray Guarendi, a father of 10, clinical psychologist, author, public speaker and radio host, shares the following:
Dear Dr. Ray,
How important do you think it is for children to help around the house? And how can I get my kids to do more? Sometimes it's easier on my nerves if I just do the chores myself. ―Working mother
Chores are loaded with lessons about life. They show, not merely tell, a youngster that living in this home is everyone's privilege, so it's everyone's responsibility. Chores foster a sense of shared ownership and, as such, a respect for property, one's own and another's.
Household duties are forerunners of lessons about the work world. They help a child understand that work is inseparable from life, not just for grown-ups but, to a lesser degree, for those growing up.
The most durable lessons are taught young. Introduce kids to chores early, before they become allergic to work and sweat. Little ones love to help out, especially if they think chores are something reserved only for big people.
Take full advantage of a toddler's drive to imitate. Work in the same room together. Give him his own rag to help wipe the table, or dust, or dry his drinking cup. Let him hold onto the vacuum while you sweep. Odds are good he'll mess more than he cleans, but you're nurturing his attitude: I have to help, too.
Read the rest here
posted by sunnyday at 10:25 PM
This is not really about movies
Now I can't remember the details of the other flick I saw (again, catching it somewhere in the middle), but it again revolved around the lives of teens and showed a variety of mean things these dudes can do to others. I know this is a movie so a lot of what's in it may be a distortion of reality. Still, I had taken so much of an interest in the whole matter of teen angst, bullying and the whole preoccupation with the "popular girls" and the seemingly unwritten rule concerning cafeteria tables reserved for "the cool ones" which kids like the "geeks and other weird ones" are barred from.
Such was my interest that I had been looking for a copy of "Mean Girls" all week -- that 2004 movie based on a sociological study on teen girls ("Queen Bees & Wannabes"), penned by Rosalind Wiseman. I'm not sure why exactly I want to watch it, but I've been so exposed lately to this whole idea of girls doing nasty things to their peers that I'd like to know more about it (and hopefully, come to understand it more).
Lest you think this post is about teen movies or nasty girls, let me get to the point. Seeing such demonstrations of hostility among teens -- even though it was only all part of a script -- made me realize how crucial discipline is. And I'm not talking about punishment. I'm talking about the kind of formation that parents can provide their kids. Then I remembered the materials from a family conference that I had been going over, some of which are quite relevant to the topic at hand.
From the paper titled "Stronger Fathers, Stronger Families":
In his book, Dare to Discipline, noted psychologist, Dr. James Dobson, clarifies the difference between discipline and punishment. "Punishment is something you do to a child; discipline is something you do for a child -- it may involve punishment, yes, but with a clear, loving purpose to correct the child's behavior." He instructs fathers that discipline is equated with instruction and formation; punishment is equated with a penalty for an offense; the latter is a method of instruction which seeks to instill and develop self-discipline.
While watching the movies I just described, I couldn't help but wonder, "Did the parents of these kids discipline them at all?" Parenting, for sure, is no walk in the park; if you're one of those who feel that you need to be better equipped so that you can do more for your child, I hope you find what you're looking for in this blog! More posts on parenting in the future, I assure you. =)
posted by sunnyday at 8:44 PM
This site is wonderful -- you can even choose and make tickers of your own for your baby's birthday, your wedding day etc.
Thank you to Greg for linking up with his daughter (I presume) who's linked to her husband's blog (if I remember correctly), where I saw 2 cute tickers. Happy anniversary in advance =)
posted by sunnyday at 11:14 AM
The father factor
Jack O’Sullivan, spokesman for Fathers Direct said: “Bathing of babies is a indicator for a father’s involvement with his children. The study supports existing research which shows that, where fathers are actively involved, their children become more socially competent, are more successful at examinations at 16 and less likely to have a criminal record by the age of 21*
“High father involvement in a child’s life is an important predictor of social mobility, of whether a child will outstrip the employment achievements of their parents. Among adults, the strongest predictor in both men and women of an individual’s altruism – the ability to care for others - is the level of care taken by the father in their childhood.
*According to “What Good Are Dads?” a review of 20 years of research on fatherhood, by Charlie Lewis, Professor of Psychology at Lancaster University and published in June 2001 by Fathers Direct, NFPI and other parenting charities
posted by sunnyday at 9:17 PM
I've had that line said to me enough times to now know the difference between missing something due to lack of time and missing something because it wasn't a priority. After all, if one wants something real badly, he will find a way to get it -- that's usually the case.
A lot's been said about quality time, especially where family is concerned. Here's something I got from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln site, which devotes a lot of resources to family research. It delves on the merits of spending time together with our family.
Is it quality time or quantity of time that's important? According to researchers Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain, it's both! In a survey of over 3,000 families living in the United States and abroad, time together was identified as one of six characteristics found in families who seem best prepared to meet the challenges of modern-day living.
"We know that poor relationships within the family are related to many of the problems in society," note family life researchers Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain. "Strong families are made. Step by step," they proclaim. And spending time together - quality time in large quantities - has been found to be one of the important steps necessary to achieving a strong family.
Benefits of spending time together
"Families benefit from shared time because it eases loneliness and isolation, nurtures relation-ships and creates a family identity," they explain. Furthermore, strong families understand that communication simply isn't going to be good unless they have time together.
The rest of the article may be read at a UNL for Families page.
posted by sunnyday at 9:14 PM
The things other kids say...
, 2, was playing in the living room with his 9-month-old Jackson
brother Woody. When Woody put a bug in his mouth,
to tell his mother. She, of course, was quite upset.
then told her, "But Mom, I told him to chew it good!"
-- from Holly (mother of Jackson and Woody) of
* * *
* * *
Myrtle's friend, who was very pregnant, was discussing when her
baby would be delivered. Myrtle's 3-year-old daughter was listening
in on the conversation and she asked, "Mommy, is she going to the
hospital to get her baby or is the doctor going to deliver it?"
-- from Anita Burney (of
) who says her mother, Myrtle, told Kansas
her that story many times.
* * *
* * *
Kim, 9, had a school project that required her to make a family
tree poster. Her great-grandfather was half Indian, so Kim and her
mother (Sandra) had a discussion about what percentage of Indian
she is. Sandra tried to explain that Kim's grandmother would be
one-fourth, Sandra one-eighth and Kim would be one-sixteenth.
Kim said, "No, Mom, you don't understand. I want to know what
part of me is Indian. Is it my arm, leg or what?"
-- from Sandra Hatton of
* * *
* * *
Mallory, 3, and grandma were playing when Mallory wanted to listen
to some music. She noticed some old 33 1/3 rpm records that had
Disney characters on the cover. She was curious and had to open
one. Upon pulling the record out of the sleeve, she said, "Boy,
Grandma, this is a really big CD!"
-- from Ryan and Dawn Jackson (parents of Mallory) of
Karl, and his stepson, Joey, 4, went to get haircuts. Back at home,
Karl was joking with Joey and said, "I thought you were going to
get your hair cut just like mine." Joey immediately said. "But
Mommy didn't tell them to cut it like yours ... Mommy, next time
we go, you tell them to cut my hair just like Daddy's and make
sure they cut out that spot in the back, too!"
-- from Lorilee Sichelstiel of Frederick, Md.
posted by sunnyday at 11:12 AM
"We agree on aims and goals." "We laugh together." "We agree on a philosophy of life."
Those are among the things that social historian Jeanette Lauer and husband Robert said, relating words that came from married couples who were included in a study they conducted about enduring marriages. They also mentioned a lot of "we-ness" going on in the couples' lives, a deep sense of togetherness that provides a strong bond around the marriage as well as the whole family.
When so much of the articles in the papers today (and a lot of the movie plots that translate into box-office hits) focus on marital infidelity, divorce, family dysfunction -- and somehow present these as the norm -- it's refreshing to read about successes. And this is not fiction at all. =)
Here's some of what I unearthed:
EXPERTS FIND "WE-NESS"
In one classic analysis, social historian Jeanette Lauer and her husband, Robert, a specialist in human behavior, studied couples with enduring marriages. Among the couples the Lauers studied were 300 who had been happily married for 15 years or longer.
The Lauers described in an article in Psychology Today how the couples reflected a we-ness approach to their marriages. The couples made many "we" statements when describing their married life.
"We agree on aims and goals." "We laugh together." "We agree on a philosophy of life."
"We share outside hobbies and interests." "We agree about our sex life."
"We have a stimulating exchange of ideas." "We agree on how and how often to show affection."
"My spouse is my best friend." "I like my spouse as a person." "I confide in my spouse."
The happily married couples studied by the Lauers tried to do as many things together as possible. One husband said of his wife: "I would rather spend time with her, talk with her, be with her than with anyone else." Another said: "We try to share everything."
For these couples, said the Lauers: "'Till death do us part' is not a binding clause but a gratifying reality."
U.S. psychologist Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain, his colleague, have conducted studies of what they call "strong families." More than 3,000 families from all around the world contributed to the research and conclusions these authors described in the book Secrets of Strong Families.
They found that these families had several characteristics in common, in spite of the fact that they lived in such far-flung corners of the earth as the United States, Central and South America, South Africa or Germany, Austria and Switzerland.
The we-ness factor loomed large as binding glue in their marriages. "Members of strong families feel good about themselves as a family unit or team," wrote authors Stinnett and DeFrain. "They have a sense of belonging with each other -- a sense of 'we.'"
One husband said: "It came to me that the joy of life comes from the two of us together rather than outside things like career, hobbies, or leisure activities."
Strong families do not let careers slash into marriage bonds. Said one wife: "My husband and I decided that family is very important to us. Our relationship and our relationship with our children will outlast jobs and cars and houses."
These husbands and wives are first and foremost "we-always" couples. They are, we might say, wired together. "They share all (or nearly all) aspects of their lives with interest and joy," wrote Stinnett and DeFrain. They are mates, lovers, companions, partners, and best friends."
Jeanette C. Lauer is Research Professor at U.S. International University, San Diego. She received her Ph.D. in Social History from Washington University, St. Louis. She has published numerous journal articles and co-authored fifteen books. Most recently she co-authored Becoming Family: Building a Stepfamily that Really Works. She is a member of the National Council on Family Relations, and the Stepfamily Association of America.
posted by sunnyday at 10:50 AM
Wisdom in grass, doors & clamming up
"If the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, imagine how high their water bill must be."
Neat huh? Whoever thought of that, thank you. It's a witty spin-off of the original saying; not to mention, words to take solace in during glass-half-empty moments.
Then there's the one which I came across at a discount bookstore while leafing through a Mary Engelbreit book --
"Teachers open the door, but you have to enter by yourself."
It's a Chinese proverb, and it sure puts the teacher-student perspective in a whole different light. And I'm not talking only about the classroom scenario.
Then just a few minutes ago, I stumbled upon another thought-provoking life tip while exploring the Heartwarmers site. Truly, the deepest and most helpful ideas are contained in the most seemingly shallow statements. *smiley*
"The two best times to keep your mouth shut are when you're swimming and when you're angry."
posted by sunnyday at 2:29 PM
He's sharing his secrets
Do you mind if I get a little personal today?
Last week Anita and I celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary. That
means I have now officially been married longer than I was not. I'm not
exactly sure what that means, but it must mean something. Mustn't it?
Anita and I were talking about it the other day (which, it turns out,
is what old, long-time married people do -- a lot), and we decided that
we've learned a thing or two through the years. Don't get me wrong -- we
don't have all the answers. Not by a long shot. But there are at least 13
things we've learned about marriage -- and who said 13 is an unlucky
1. Marriage is NOT a 50-50 proposition. It just doesn't work that
way. I mean, exactly where would my 50 end and Anita's 50 begin? The
best marriages are those where both partners give 100 percent to the
relationship, and neither one worries about who did what for whom last.
2. It can get better -- no matter what "it" is -- as long as husband and wife
continue to work on nurturing their love. Just as a plant needs steady
doses of water and sunlight to flourish, a marriage requires regular
maintenance with plenty of tenderness, compassion, interest and
attentiveness (and it doesn't hurt to occasionally spread a little fertilizer
here and there, either).
The #3 secret is pretty insightful:
The four most important words in a marriage are "I'll do the dishes."
But I won't tell you the rest! You can easily read them at Heartwarmers.com (to which the
writer, Joseph Walker, is a regular and well-loved contributor) by clicking here.
posted by sunnyday at 2:01 PM
Stick 'em up
That is one smile-inducing albeit thought-provoking sticker (in my opinion). There are more, with varying degrees of wit and intensity.
posted by sunnyday at 9:56 AM
You've probably seen the bumper sticker that goes "My other car is a Rolls Royce." Or "God, give me patience -- RIGHT NOW." Makes for amusing moments on the road...or not, particularly when the sleek-looking car with a gigantic tailpipe next to you sports a "NO FEAR" sticker. Well, here's an instance wherein it took a simple bumper sticker to influence one young woman's life-altering decision.
MILLINOCKET, Maine, August 15, 2005 (LifeSiteNews.com) – A bumper sticker saved a baby’s life, as reported by an e-newsletter. Pro-lifers Dave and Mary Labun came out of the house to their parked car to find a handwritten note on the windshield thanking them for their “Abortion Stops a Beating Heart” bumper sticker.
The note reads as follows:
This might be very weird, but I wanted to thank you. I’m not sure what you believe in, but I’m a strong believer in God, and right now I am 17 and pregnant. And on my way to school one day, I was really wondering what to do – I was really thinking about abortion, because I was scared.
posted by sunnyday at 9:25 AM
To have & to hold for 81 years
French Couple Celebrates 81st Anniversary
The Associated Press
Friday, August 12, 2005; 12:23 PM
Source: The Washington Post
posted by sunnyday at 1:35 PM
The things kids say...
When Terry's son was 5 they introduced him to a family favorite: sauerkraut and dumplings. He tried a few bites, then put down his fork and proclaimed: "I don't like this sour crap and dumb things!"
- from Danielle's mother Terry Hart of
Sarah, 4, loved to go to work with Carol, who had a small business. One day a customer was looking at a figurine of two rabbits sitting on a bench kissing. The customer asked Sarah what she thought of it. Very solemnly Sarah replied, "I didn't know rabbits could do CPR!"
- from Carol Morris of
Twelve-year-old Rachel Kramer of La Quinta,
* * *
Leceta Chisholm Guibault of
Erica, 4, was sitting next to her Grampa on the couch. She kept glancing sideways at his enormous pot belly. "You know, Grampa," Erica said, "you have a big belly." Grampa, amused by the comment, played along. "Yes," he said, "that's because before I came over here to visit I ate a watermelon." Erica very seriously answered, "Next time you should cut it first."
- from Erica's mother, Audrey of Taunton, Mass.
Sources: Funnykids and Kidwarmers
posted by sunnyday at 2:55 PM
Let your mouse do the walking
Voice for Life is based in New Zealand and is rich with materials, with sub-sections on women's health, families, the old or infirm, and bio-technology. "Everyone, no matter what their human condition, makes a contribution to humanity and cannot be judged simply in terms or economic or intellectual usefulness" is one of the thought-provoking statements I came across in this site.
Swiss Aid for Mother and Child is a gem, too, and provides translations of the site's contents "in Deutsch, Francais, Italiano, Rumantsch, English." It focuses on Mutter und Kind...Mere et enfant...Madre e bambino...Mamma e uffant. The voice of life is indeed a universal voice.
posted by sunnyday at 2:15 PM
The Alzheimer's Prayer
Please grant my visitors
Tolerance of my confusion
Forgiveness for my irrationality
And the strength
To walk me into the mist of memory
My world has become.
Please help them take my hand
And stay awhile,
Even though I seem unaware
Of their presence.
Help them to know their strength
And loving care will drift slowly
Into the days to come
Just when I need it most.
Let them to know when I don't recognize them,
That I will, I will....
Keep their hearts free of sorrow for me
For my sorrow, when it comes
Only lasts a moment, then it's gone.
And finally, Lord,
Please let them know
How very much ther visits mean
How even through this relentless
Mystery, I can still feel their love.
This provides a peek into what life may be like for somebody with Alzheimer's; hopefully, it will result in greater sensitivity toward people whom we normally dismiss (usually out of ignorance) as simply "ulyanin" (forgetful due to old age), as well as toward their caregivers.
I got the preceding material from Dutchy's blog, which contains a lot of practical information on assisting the elderly with Alzheimer's, Dementia, Parkinson's, and other disabilities. Whether or not you're caring for someone or are related to someone with those conditions, it pays to be equipped. You'll never know whom you'll be able to help later on with this kind of know-how. Here are some useful tips, this time on dealing with one with dementia:
We aren’t born knowing how to communicate with a person with dementia—but we can learn. Improving your communication skills will help make care giving less stressful and will likely improve the quality of your relationship with your loved one. Good communication skills will also enhance your ability to handle the difficult behavior you may encounter as you care for a person with a dementing illness.
1. Set a positive mood for interaction. Your attitude and body language communicate your feelings and thoughts stronger than your words. Set a positive mood by speaking to your loved one in a pleasant and respectful manner. Use facial expressions, tone of voice and physical touch to help convey your message and show your feelings of affection.
2. Get the person’s attention. Limit distractions and noise—turn off the radio or TV, close the curtains or shut the door, or move to quieter surroundings. Before speaking, make sure you have her attention; address her by name, identify yourself by name and relation, and use nonverbal cues and touch to help keep her focused. If she is seated, get down to her level and maintain eye contact.
3. State your message clearly. Use simple words and sentences. Speak slowly, distinctly and in a reassuring tone. Refrain from raising your voice higher or louder; instead, pitch your voice lower. If she doesn’t understand the first time, use the same wording to repeat your message or question. If she still doesn’t understand, wait a few minutes and rephrase the question. Use the names of people and places instead of pronouns or abbreviations.
Read more at Ask Dutchy
posted by sunnyday at 8:04 PM
- Albert Schweitzer, Nobel Peace Laureate, 1952, humanitarian, medical doctor in Africa; built hospital and later built a leper colony with his Nobel Prize; organist, historian, theologian; Queen Elizabeth II awarded him the "Order of Merit" in 1955, Britain's highest civilian honor
posted by sunnyday at 5:33 PM
Susan Torres, her baby Susan Anne Catherine, and a story of hope
|3-August-2005 -- Catholic News Agency|
"MIRACLE BABY" BORN, TORRES FAMILY SAYS "LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD"
ARLINGTON, VA., USA, August 3 (CNA) - Susan Torres, a brain-dead woman who was kept alive for almost three months to give her unborn baby time to develop has given birth to a girl two months premature.
The baby is being monitored at the neo-natal intensive care unit at a hospital in Arlington, Virginia.
Torres, a devout Catholic, suffered a stroke on 7 May after an undiagnosed cancer spread to her brain. Doctors said she was brain dead but they offered to keep her alive for the sake of the baby.
She was four months pregnant with her second child. The baby, Susan Anne Catherine Torres, was delivered by Caesarean section at a Virginia hospital on Tuesday and weighed 800g (1lb, 13oz).
On Wednesday, the Torres family released a statement saying that "earlier this morning, after a brief goodbye with her husband, parents, and other family members, and after receiving the last sacraments of the Catholic Church, Susan Michelle Rollin Torres passed away after the machines, which sustained her life for the past 12 weeks. She was 26 years old."
"This is obviously a bittersweet time for our family," says the statement. "We are overjoyed at the birth of Baby Susan and deeply grieved at the loss of her mother. From the beginning, we knew that two things would get us through to the baby's birth: God's providence and Susan's determination. Susan was always the toughest person in that ICU room. Her passing is a testament to the truth that human life is a gift from God and that children are always to be fought for, even if life requires -- as it did of Susan -- the last full measure of devotion.
The family especially gave thanks "the many thousands of people who have taken this story to heart, donated to the Susan M. Torres Fund, and most especially, sent us their prayers and best wishes. This family has literally been lifted up in prayer, and I can never express adequately our gratitude for the prayers and support we have received from people all over the globe."
I got the preceding news article from EWTN News. The following is a more recent feature from LifeSite, which delves on more details about the story of hope which has gotten considerable attention worldwide, especially in the United States. Sonny Torres -- the father of Susan's husband Jason -- offered the following when asked his opinion about why the story has gained widespread attention: “I guess, and I kind of hope it is, that people are really tired of seeing nothing but Terri Schiavo stuff, they’re really tired of reading about Laci Peterson and her baby just being thrown away. And it’s nice to see somebody that’s going the other direction.”
ARLINGTON, VA, August 5, 2005 (LifeSiteNews.com) – The story of the heroic struggle to preserve the life of the unborn child of life-support patient Susan Torres and her husband Jason, and the miraculous birth of their baby girl, Susan Anne Catherine Torres, has unexpectedly received worldwide publicity. Thousands of news sources picked up on the fight for the life of baby Susan and broadcast the evolving miracle to hundreds of millions of readers and viewers across the globe.
In lengthy interviews with LifeSiteNews.com the parents of Susan’s husband, Jason—Sonny and Karen Torres—talked about the events that have plunged their entire family into suffering beyond imagination, and provided information and insights into their struggle that they say they have shared with no other news media.
Jason’s soft-spoken father, Sonny, has given express permission to LifeSiteNews to print the details of what both he and his son have increasingly come to believe was a shared mystical experience, foretelling the great influence of the miraculous story of Susan and her unborn daughter, and ordering it to be spread. Sonny told LifeSiteNews that until now he has not provided any other news media with the following information because he was afraid that the mainstream media would fail to understand and would distort the story. “I want it to be done the way pro-life people would want it to be done,” he said.
posted by sunnyday at 4:54 PM
Down but not out
In the previous post, D Sweeper asked about Down syndrome -- what it is and what causes it. Many of us have seen people with Down Syndrome, or whom some refer to as "mongoloids." They look alike so it's easy to distinguish them from others. I remember tagging along as a kid when a brother of mine drove to my sister's school to fetch her, when she was still a student at that school for children with special needs. A dozen or so other students there had Down syndrome (just like my sister) and I recall being fascinated by the fact that my sister resembled her classmates more than she did me (and I was her sister!).
Here's a tidbit: the chromosomal disorder is called "Down syndrome" because a British doctor by the name of John Down was responsible for discovering much about the disorder. I forget know what exactly his studies led him to find.
Below is some basic information about Down syndrome that I've taken from two sites, both of which are included in the list of links on the left.
What is Down syndrome?
Down syndrome is a chromosomal disorder characterized by the presence of an extra #21 chromosome. Instead of having 46 chromosomes in each of his/her cells, a person with Down syndrome has 47.
More from the National Down Syndrome Congress
A person normally has 46 chromosomes, 23 inherited from each parent. Every person has a unique genetic code (with the exception of identical twins). It is this uniqueness which makes the physical appearance of each person different... Down syndrome is caused by a person having three copies of chromosome 21 instead of two copies. This is why Down syndrome is also referred to by the name Trisomy 21... Down syndrome occurs in all races, in all socio-economic conditions, and in all countries. No relationship between diet or illness and Down syndrome has ever been found. The only established relationship is with maternal age. A woman is more likely to have a child with Down syndrome as she grows older with a sharp rise in risk at 35-40 years of age. However, 80% of all children with Down syndrome are born to mothers under 35.
More from Down Syndrome for New Parents
posted by sunnyday at 2:38 PM
Letter to new parents of a child with Down Syndrome
I stumbled upon something I found quite moving while checking out Down Syndrome for New Parents, which was listed among the resources at BeNotAfraid.net. It was a letter written in response to a guy who wrote: "My sister is SO depressed because the baby is diagnosed with Down Syndrome. Pls. email anything positive you have experienced so my sister will not be so sad."
Here's part of the response:
In the book "Uncommon Fathers," one of the fathers talks about his daughter who has Down Syndrome. After they were told, they were so upset that they decided that they would not bring their new baby home but rather they would have her institutionalized. When they arrived home without the baby, they explained to their son about the problems of a Down Syndrome baby and why his new sister would not be coming home. After a short while their son asked, "Dad, does this mean that if something happens to me and I'm not so smart anymore, that you will send me away?" Of course, they immediately went and brought his sister home. The point of this story is that we love our children no matter what. Bad things can happen to healthy children with the right number of chromosomes but we still love them.
Read the entire letter.
posted by sunnyday at 7:43 PM